6 Secrets To Happiness & Horniness

Healthy couples possess a few strategies that anyone can adopt! Discover the surprising traits they share and learn about the one activity they comfortably enjoy together. Explore these not-so-secret secrets below!

1. Healthy couples often engage in sex, even if it's planned.

Let's address this point first, as it holds true. The definition of "frequent" is something you and your partner decide together. It might mean once a week or twice a month. It could be less or more, as long as you both agree. A study conducted at the University of Colorado Boulder found that couples who had sex two to three times a month were 33% more likely to report higher levels of happiness.

If there is a significant disparity in sexual desire between partners, it's a genuine issue that needs attention. However, being too busy is not a valid reason for having less sex. Couples in healthy relationships prioritize time for intimacy, even if it means scheduling it. Once you're in the moment of undressing each other, the fact that it was planned fades away, and you can fully enjoy the experience.

2. Healthy couples are friends with one another, get along with each other's friends, and share interests.

The most content couples have a deep emotional connection that includes both friendship and romantic love. While intense, passionate desire is fantastic, it's challenging to sustain a genuine connection if there's nothing to discuss afterwards, regardless of how amazing the physical intimacy is.

In addition to being friends with one another, it is beneficial to have mutual friends. A study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that couples who share social circles tend to feel more connected and have a stronger relationship overall compared to those with distinct groups of friends.

It's perfectly fine if you're not close friends with each other's friends. Another significant way to strengthen your bond, as identified by the same research, is through what they refer to as "shared media experiences." Whether it's a TV show that captivates both of you or a deep affection for the same novel, shared appreciation can enhance your connection.

3. Healthy couples experience better sleep.

We're referring to actual sleep, not intimacy. (For some, this might even involve sleeping in different beds!) Sleep quality is crucial for numerous reasons, but you might not have considered its negative impact on your relationship. A study from the University of Arizona found that women with poor sleep experienced more relationship issues compared to those with better sleep patterns!

4. Healthy couples have similar drinking habits.

In a related context, healthy couples tend to have similar drinking patterns—not in terms of what they drink, but how much they consume. Research from the Buffalo Research Institute indicates that couples with differing drinking habits (where one partner drinks significantly more or less than the other) are more likely to break up compared to those who share similar drinking levels.

5. Healthy couples enjoy doing nothing together.

One of the easiest ways to gauge the strength of a relationship is to relax and simply spend time together doing nothing. The happiest, healthiest couples find true comfort in just being with each other. If you're always seeking activities, it might be time to slow down and reflect. Ask yourself why. Being busy doesn't necessarily indicate a problem with your relationship, but it's crucial to take time to slow down and enjoy the comfort of just sitting together, even if it's only for ten or fifteen minutes.

It's all about appreciation. Healthy couples take time to be mindful of the present, making it easier to enjoy living in the moment rather than constantly worrying about what to do next.

6. Healthy couples can effectively prevent minor arguments from escalating.

Everyone has their own way of defusing an argument, don't they? Certainly, but there's a straightforward mental approach that can significantly change the trajectory of a disagreement.

This "secret" is based on research published in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science. By considering whether you'll care about the issue, like him placing dishes in the wrong cabinet, 20 years from now, you're more likely to resolve the conflict and move on.

In the study, 300 participants were asked to either think about the future or concentrate on the present during an argument with their partner. Those who focused on the future were less inclined to blame their partners, had a clearer understanding of their own feelings, and demonstrated greater forgiveness after the argument—all essential elements of a healthy, fulfilling relationship. Ultimately, it’s about perspective. Give yourself a mental break and aim to learn from the disagreement in a way that strengthens your connection rather than weakens it.

As always, our Romance Specialists are here to help healthy couples stay as happy and passionate as possible! Visit your local Pleasure's to speak with someone in person, we're here to assist.